Our Journals: Kylie Cooke

Our Journals: Kylie Cooke
Collecting vintage and op shop pieces is essential. I've been gathering kids' clothes for years, patiently waiting for the day we'd have a little human to wear them. Plus, we’re fortunate to have some very stylish friends, so Foxy has inherited some amazing hand-me-downs. Having those unique finds is what makes putting an outfit together so much fun.
I'm very grateful that Foxy is open to the clothes I find for him. I can't help but feel he has an innate appreciation for the magic of style and its silent language that speaks before you do.
Honestly, I’m still learning the art of nourishing myself. It’s easy to get stuck in the weeds of motherhood and end up trying to pour from an empty cup. I’m working on giving myself permission to be imperfect and reminding myself that I’m doing my best with what I’ve got. I’ve found perimenopause and menopause to be very challenging seasons to mother through, so making self-care a priority is something I work on daily.
Alone time, without anyone needing anything from me, really helps. I’m trying to incorporate meditation as a new practice. I'm an active relaxer and really struggle to be still.
Being in nature and walking the beautiful beach that’s on our doorstep is a regular micro retreat. A relatively new ritual I’ve embraced since returning to Aotearoa is playing pickleball. I've always loved racket sports and played lots of tennis and padel when we lived in Bali. There's something very satisfying about simply hitting a ball, honing a skill, being active, and being part of a community.
The freedom and inspiration of travel fueled my creativity & hustle for Only Lovers & I’ve noticed since returning to a more structured environment, it has altered my workflow, and I’ve found keeping it all going a lot harder. Right now I’m taking a little hiatus while we settle back into NZ life and giving myself the opportunity to recalibrate & reconnect.
There is sooo much learning on this journey, but the coolest thing is the opportunity to re-mother myself. The act of nurturing a child awakens parts of ourselves that are longing for healing - whether it’s embracing imperfections, learning to set boundaries with kindness or giving ourselves the same patience and compassion we extend to our kiddos. I try to remind myself that each new day is a chance to do better for Foxy & reclaim what was lost or overlooked in me. I’ve learnt the messy, beautiful work of mothering is a path of self-discovery, forgiveness and growth.
When I became a mother, suddenly my child's needs became the compass for my choices. I’ve found that motherhood demands creative problem solving and flexibility that affects broader life decisions. A large part of choosing to take time out from regular programming and go on an adventure was driven by wanting to expose Foxy to different ways of living, to show him cultures outside of the Western norms and to prioritise connecting as a family. Travelling the world during a global pandemic forced us to always be open and to embrace uncertainty and to make decisions that best align with our family values.
My greatest hope is for Foxy to grow up in a world where his emotional intelligence, self-belief and creativity are valued and he is comfortable, unashamedly being his whole self. I try to show up and model effort over perfection, to apologise when I mess up, so he sees that it's safe to make mistakes. And to set clear boundaries with kindness and care, and explain the “why” behind our family's rules. My hope is that by prioritising connection over correction, we can give him lifelong tools to navigate the world with heart.
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